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The ABC’s of Awkward Conversations - Why Am I Talking?

In the last blog I challenged you to think about why you haven't had a conversation with someone. Let's look at two key elements as you decide whether or not to have a conversation.

Firstly, you need to identify the problem. This is strictly the facts without judgment or your interpretation. Next, you need to determine what your goal would be in having the conversation. This does not mean telling yourself the problem is your partner is a lazy slob and your goal is to turn him into a neat freak! Sorry, it doesn't work that way. However, it could be that the problem is that your partner leaves his breakfast dishes on the counter and the dog is helping himself to the leftovers! Your goal is let him know the impact on both you and the dog and ask him to put his dishes in the dishwasher when he is done. It sounds simple because it can be.

Diane's Rule: It is a lot easier to have a productive conversation when you are clear about what the problem is and what you hope to achieve. If it is to change the other person – forget it.

Quote of the Week

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal. ~ Henry Ford

What I Want From You

I challenge you to start by thinking about what is the problem – really and what would your goal be in talking to someone? Start with something simple. Does it help to be clear on the problem and what your goal is?

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